When Is Cheating A Big Deal?

Posted: 12th February 2009 by ê¿ê in Friends & Family
Tags: cheating, games, morals, word games
36/365: "Playing" Scrabble
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A group of people at my place of work get together at lunchtime to talk and read the newspaper. Lately they have begun playing a game. It’s a fun and challenging game, but is usually complete well before the lunch hour is up, so it’s a nice game to play in a short time.

They use Scrabble letter tiles and all of the tiles are placed face down in the center of the table, then each player draws 7 letters. He or she then makes their own scrabble-like grid of words using as many of their letters as they can. The first person to use all of their letters calls “get two” and everyone chooses two more tiles from the center pile. They either add these to already existing words or redesign their grid with new word configurations and again, the quickest to use all of his letters calls “get two”. This repeats until all the tiles in the center are used and then a score is determined by subtracting the point value of the unused tiles from the point value of the tiles used in the word configurations. Players may challenge other players’ words, but this doesn’t happen very often. Play continues until it’s time to go back to work, then all scores are tallied and a winner declared. It’s just “bragging rights” as a prize.

I observed the play for a couple of days without taking part. One of the regular players is terrible — he struggles to make words quickly and always had negative points or a very low score. A couple of the other players are cut-throat and are usually the winner by a large margin over the rest.

On the second day, I quietly helped the poor player make a few words. He was still in no way going to win, but at least he wasn’t dead last and actually manged to use all his tiles once and be the one to call “get two” which I could tell made him happy.

One of the other players started loudly complaining of cheating (as far as I knew there wasn’t a rule against partnering, but I didn’t ask and the “game owner” never confirmed or denied that this was disallowed).

The game quickly ended when she said she didn’t like playing with “cheaters” despite the fact that she was tied with one other player and far, FAR ahead of any of the other players. My guy was next to last.

I feel badly but also torn as part of me wants to just tell her to get a life and part of me feels guilty for spoiling the game for the rest. I’m pretty much a stickler myself for following rules, but as I stated, I wasn’t aware of a rule against partnering and the “game owner” never said it was disallowed.

What do you think? Am I a terrible person for “cheating” and ruining the game? Should I apologize to all the other players?  What would you do in this situation?

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  1. If you did it openly, it can’t be cheating. It doesn’t sound *in any way* like cheating to me.

    The auld bat should get a life methinks. :)

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  2. Sandy says:

    Sounds to me like you were lending a hand, trying to even the playing field as it were. Thats not cheating. I don’t think you owe anyone an apology. In general I think cheating is always bad, but don’t view you helping the poor guy as cheating.

    It’s lunch, they need to chill. We don’t get a full hour, only half. I knit or crochet while everyone chats…so am safe.

    Sorry I wasn’t able to drop today, will catch you tomorrow.

    Interesting post
    Sandy

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    • ê¿ê says:

      I guess I just root for the underdog — I’m pretty competitive, but don’t like just running up the score because I can.

  3. fragileheart says:

    I think for the most part that person needs to grow up. Not that money is all that matters but as far as I could tell, it was supposed to be a game for fun and nothing more. So I don’t see anything wrong in helping someone like that.

    Someone who is winning and still whines about helping someone else just plain needs to grow up and learn to think of someone other than themselves.

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    • ê¿ê says:

      Thanks, Reggie — that’s pretty much what I think too, but still feel badly for the others who were playing.

  4. Read 2 Know says:

    If you think you are terrible or cheater because you helped someone, that’s incorrect. I actually do cheating when I play and Win too! I feel proud. I like cheating.
    People never realize that I cheated until I tell them that I cheated. :D

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  5. cardiogirl says:

    For sure that other woman is being jealous and petty. Come on, it’s not like you swooped in, covertly helped him win first place and then jumped on the table screaming, “We win!”

    I wouldn’t give it another thought and might jump in there next time on my own and attempt to beat that chick just for my own satisfaction. I wouldn’t say anything to her about it but I would revel in my victory in a silent kind of way.

    p.s. I found you through Lyndi’s blog review. You’re fun! I’ll be back.

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